The other day, a friend
asked: "What is your biggest fear in life?" I didn't
respond promptly, as I always do. "Ha ha", he said: "You
seem to be like me, harbouring more than one fear, right?" “Wrong”, I said: “I was in fact searching for one that frightens me.”
He wasn't convinced: “How can you say that? Everyone experiences fear. It is like any
other emotion that grips you without warning. Why are you ashamed
to accept it? Don't you think, fear in a way, helps us to counter or
circumvent an imminent danger? Most often our reflexes help us. Only in its absence, does fear keep haunting us, and disrupting our thoughts
and lives.”
He continued: “In my
case, loneliness is at the root of all my fear. Seclusion, solitude,
isolation, alienation..., call it whatever you want. Even within
the family, I feel like an island without a bridge. Covid-19 has
made that feeling worse, imposing unimaginable restrictions, and
threatening to wreck my faculties.”
You may wonder.., has
this guy gone bonkers? No. He was openly expressing his
concerns. And the reality is, he is not alone. Many people I talk
to, express increasing levels of boredom, lethargy, and fatigue. There is an air of all round uncertainty. The question is, how long
is this going to last? Would we ever see ''good days'' again?
Life, we are told, is
beautiful. But we tend to forget, how that beautiful life shocks us
at times. In such moments of anxiety, fear, and helplessness, if we have to retain our mental balance, we must stay calm, confident and
optimistic.
The one-liner below tells us, nothing is ever totally
lost, even when we fear falling into an abyss!
Nice blog. No more words to comment because my mind is full of fear in this situation , not about myself but some beloveds.
ReplyDeleteQuite natural.
DeleteLet us hope for a quick getaway.
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Yes. Loneliness is the greatest fear. Even when you are in the midst of family / friends, you still feel lonely. Especially at this time, if you are hospitalised, nobody can be there with you. When I feel lonely I pray. It eases away some of my loneliness. Accept the truth that you come alone into this world and you go away alone. In the meantime we have to be positive and look forward to the good old days that will be with us soon. Keep yourself busy, keep yourself happy, keep yourself safe. Do whatever makes you happy. Life has to go on.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree, Asha. Life must go on. The way to do it is, as you said, be busy, happy and positive.
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'HOPE' is the only elixir which keeps all to '....tie a knot and hang on'!
ReplyDeleteSo, keep drinking the 'HOPE' potion and hang on till a suitable bucket is found to be kicked to score the ultimate 'GOAAAAAL'
.....Hurraahhh.....
Cheers!
You made me realise the many 'incarnations' wisdom has!
DeleteRajasekharan! Well written! It is for each of us to find our own ways to make life more happy & purposeful in these days. Let it be cooking,, painting or any other hobby. My friend Pattom Jayan used to say often “ Call no man happy until he dies”. So true in these times. Rajasekharan! Looking out for more thought provoking blogs from you! Cheers!
ReplyDeleteFully agree with Jayan's words: "Call no man happy until he dies". But as you said, till then, we can explore ways to stay happy and calm.
ReplyDeleteThanks Santhi Kumar